There are six different wedding and marriage celebration type things this year that we are either involved in or invited to. There are a even more weddings of friends and acquaintances from college that we are not invited to but know about. All of these weddings have me thinking about my own and about marriage in general.
It is so easy to get caught up in the minor details and the not so minor details of planning a wedding. Sometimes you get so caught up in the wedding you forget about the what happens after the wedding, and I’m not talkin‘ about the honeymoon. Yup. I’m talking about the big “M.” Marriage. It’s the whole point of the wedding, right? Sometimes the details of what type of cake, oh no the bridesmaid dresses won’t be here until two days after the wedding (this one actually happened to me), the napkins don’t match the centerpiece, etc.
These things are really not life and death issues even though they may seem like them. It is important to focus on the big picture. Thing of the wedding as a prerequisite for the marriage. I honestly believe that if we didn’t have family and friends that would have been very angry, we would have eloped. For me, after I recovered from the issue of the bridesmaid dresses, the wedding really wasn’t important. I really did not want to be the center of attention. I was sure I was going to trip on my dress (which I did but it turned out okay). To this day, I’m glad that I tried not to make my wedding a big deal. That being said, it is okay if you want yours to be a big deal. That is part of being a bride. Just remember to focus on the big picture. Even if the dresses don’t all quite match and the wedding cake is sawdust yellow not ivory (again, happened to me) or your wedding is in a backyard and a local dog licks the cake (saw that one happen), it is all okay. Remember that you are doing this so you can spend the rest of your life with the one your love. Your husband.
(Note: To all the brides I know right now, this is honest advice and observations. It is not directed at anyone or any wedding in particular. Consider it a fresh perspective from someone who has been there. 🙂 )Come party with me! Here are all the link parties I do each week.