We all have at least an idea of what our personality type is. Introvert or extrovert. Loud or quiet. Public eye or behind the scenes. Some people are serious whereas some are more on the quirky side. Our personalities are what make us unique. But sometimes we feel ashamed by our personalities.
Introverts sometimes feel like they are supposed to be more outgoing and love going and doing. Those that are loud and crazy sometimes feel like they need to be more subdued and less “in your face.”
How about, instead of feeling guilty about what we’re not, we start to embrace our personality type?
Accept Ourselves
It can be easy to only see our faults, to only see who we think the world wants us to be. Introverts are often made fun of for being homebodies. There is no shame in being an introvert! In fact, being an introvert really just means you recharge with time alone, that time with people can wear you out. It doesn’t mean that you are anti-social or have no friends or are completely socially awkward.
The same is true for those who are extroverts. Being an extrovert generally means that you gain energy from being around other people. That doesn’t mean you never need time alone or are a bubbly person.
No matter what your personality type is, it’s time to accept yourself, fully, and not feel guilty for your need for quiet or your need to activity. If you are a crazy, fun loving person, accept it! Don’t try to hide it or change it based on what others have said or who you think you’re supposed to be.
Embracing your personality type, not hiding or excusing it, is an amazingly freeing experience. You’ll be amazed at how it begins to affect your happiness and confidence.
Changing Your Life
Once you have learned to accept whatever your personality type is, you can begin to love your own unique personality. Personality types may be broad but individual personalities are just that: individual. Once you can do that, you can begin to see a change in your life. Yes, you will start to lose people around you. But those people? They never really liked you to begin with. You will start to lose their negativity in your life. Yes, there are some people that are going to hang around because they are related to you or you work with them or you just run in the same circles.
However, something awesome happens when you start to embrace your personality type: you stop caring what those people think. You stop trying to change for them to make them happy. I realize this is sounding like a motivational speaker talk but I am speaking to you straight from the heart, just like I always do. You mamas and readers are my tribe! I’ve totally got your back. Most of you are living on tight budgets and have children that wear you out. Let’s not add trying to fit into someone else’s box to the list of stress points in your lives.
So what you’re an introvert? Embrace it! Don’t make up excuses for why you can’t go to a social event. Just say, “no, I am unavailable.” Simple as that. And so freeing! Are you an extrovert married to an introvert? Work together and be open to going to social events alone without feeling guilty.
Embracing your personality type can be one of the best things you can do for your life. Life is far, far too short to stress over trying to fit into a box or be all things to all people. Embrace who you are and enjoy your life! I’m hoping to soon have posts on how personality type affects your parenting and how it affects how you manage your money. Stick around for those because it’s going to be fun and eye opening! 😉
Great post! Some looking inward we could all stand to do. 🙂 Stopping by from This is How We Roll link up.
I completely agree with every word here! I used to fight being an introvert. It drove me crazy. Now that I embrace it by saying no when I need to and cherishing my time alone like you mention, all is well. I can now appreciate that part of my wiring!
It is definitely so much easier and less maddening to just embrace who we are. 🙂
I can relate to this. I feel guilty sometimes that I’m a low energy person instead of a higher energy one. By the time I get my children off to school and get a few active things done, I gotta have some time to chill….whether my house is clean or not, and you know, that’s just how I roll. I’m still learning to give myself a little grace.#thehappynow
I totally get it! After doing the grocery shopping with both kids, especially if I drove to one of the bigger towns, I need a break. I put away the cold stuff but the pantry stuff can wait. 🙂